My seven years of being a Christian have been interesting to say the least. I have been anywhere from "well fed" to "on my own" when it came to learning the scriptures. In terms of fellowship, I experienced isolation and at other times close fellowship. The closest Christian friendships I have did not originate in a church setting, oddly enough. I met my best friend while I was working as a waitress, she was one of my customers. And I met my boyfriend, whom I adore greatly, at school. But in all my seven years as a Christian, I remained a Southern Baptist.
Many times I wondered if I should leave the denomination. Such thoughts usually followed frustration over the lack of fellowship at the church I was attending. It was this frustration coupled with my openness to changing denominations that caused me to go on my "theological journey".
It began innocently enough, with me reading the belief statements of different churches and seeing if that denomination would be a better fit for me. I soon found out about the whole Calvinism and Arminianism debate, and knowing about that made me want to study the scriptures even more. It did not take me long to realize the many inconsistencies in my own theology: on one hand I believed that Christ died for the sins of the whole world and I was not going to listen to anyone who said otherwise, on the other hand I believed that faith is a gift from God and people's eyes are opened to the gospel solely because of God's grace. I believed in something that I later found out to be called "monergism" which means that salvation is the work of God alone, He is the only "agent" bringing about regeneration. So when I was getting ready to defend Arminianism, I thought twice about it. I realized that Arminians did not seem to believe in monergism, and I was downright uncomfortable with the idea of discarding it. I was equally hesitant to say that salvation was ultimately based on the free will of people. I believed the contrary, since I believed that faith was a gift of God.
But it was hard for me to realize that I believed in something that "those Calvinists" believed in. So there I was, an "Arminian", who was once close to subscribing to the doctrine that Christians can lose their salvation, and finding out that I was probably never an Arminian. I believed in universal atonement, but I also wondered about that too. In my seven years of being a Christian, occasionally the thought crossed my mind, 'How does salvation happen?...God gives people faith...but people choose Christ...that makes no sense, and I guess it doesn't have to'. But last year, the thought crossed my mind again, and I was shocked at what I soon was faced with. Soon after finding out about monergism and the fact that I been believing in it for a while, the thought crossed my mind again, 'If God elects people based on their faith in Him, and He is the one that gives people faith...then isn't that the same thing as...predestination?" Then I thought, 'I am not a very good Arminian! Oh no, I'm a Calvinist!' I was not a very good "Calvinist" but I wonder at times if I was really some "sort" of Calvinist the whole time I was a Christian. I even had my doubts about the whole dispensationalism thing too. I remember making another Christian angry when I said that I believed that the true Israel is composed of the saints, both old and new testament saints. which trusted in Christ. Not a fleshly ancestry, but a spiritual ancestry to Abraham, who trusted in Christ. But the thought never occurred to me that I was not "just like the majority of people attending a Southern Baptist church".
After all that, I am a Calvinist. Not by choice either! I believe in the doctrines of grace, and even in a doctrine that I used to think was senseless, limited atonement. But after finding that out, I still did not need to leave my denomination and I now go to a "Founder's Friendly" Southern Baptist church!





